There are plenty of days when I wonder if my daughters are on cue with what is expected of them, but then I start to remember that both my girls started walking and talking at different ages. All of your kids will pick up different things at defferent times. I am that parent who can care less what statiistics say. I am pretty sure those are based on the average kids, whatever that means. Who gets to actually decide if your kids are on the right track, that is now your job. As their parents teach them based what is comfortable for both of you. They will let you know. My youngest daughter is only four and most days she doesn’t want anything to do with school and that is ok, but every now and than she will say “mommy help me write my name. My other child will tell me she wants to read today instead of math, and that is ok too. Even if you have a rigourous schedule in place, sometimes mixing up your monday’s and thursday’s won’t hurt. If learning becomes to much of a job for your child, dim it down and only focus on two subjects that day instead of four. Remember kids are not ready for full time jobs yet, feel it out their moods and flow with the punches, or as dad says call an audible.
I as well as my husband both attended public schools our whole childhood, when it became my daughter’s turn to start school, I hesitated. My daughter already had a slow to speak deficit. She was five years old and still speaking only a few words. I started working with her at home instead of enrolling her. In Tn she isn’t required to start until she is six anyhow. She was not quite on que with not only her speech but she also was lacking social and motor skills. I knew that it would only be wrong for me to send her to the wolves of school. As I started working with her at home she started to blossom. she could now hold a pencil and write, she was learning her letters, colors, and was gaining self-confidence everyday. I couldn’t believe it. The dark side to this story is I had plenty of negative feedback with family as to why I would choose to not send her to school. And even if the proof was in the pudding, they couldn’t wrap their heads around home school. With the endless negativity I caved for my sanity and sent her to school. She had missed the first nine weeks of school and it was told to me that she was behind. The school system tried everything with her, or so they said. After a couple of months went by my husband and I were called into a meeting and were told she would not graduate kindergarten. That was not going to happen. We than again pulled her out of school and gave home school one last shot. We signed up with a local umbrella school, chose a curriculum, and she and I worked one on one the rest of the year. She has not only caught up with her peers but had graduated kindergarten and is now doing very well in 1st grade. School systems is only for a way for a child to get lost in the mix.